We all know what anger is, and we’ve all experienced it: whether as a fleeting affliction or as full-fledged rage. Anger is a natural human emotion and can serve as nature’s way of empowering us to rebuff our perceptions of a threat to our well-being. The problem is not anger, but the mismanagement of anger. Mismanaged anger and rage is the major cause of conflict in our personal and professional lives. Anger channeled the wrong way can be destructive and leave one feeling disempowered and at the mercy of an unpredictable, uncontrollable emotion. Domestic abuse, road rage, workplace violence, divorce, and addiction are just a few examples of what happens when anger is mismanaged. As with other emotions, anger is accompanied by biological and physiological changes; when a person is angry, one’s heart rate and blood pressure increase, as do the levels of your hormones and adrenaline.
Anger management is a process of learning to recognize the signals that you’re becoming angry, and taking action to calm down and transmute the energy in order to deal with the situation in a positive, controlled and deliberate way. Anger management teaches us to respond and not react to whatever the trigger may be. Managing one’s anger doesn’t mean suppressing one’s feelings of anger or holding it in. Anger management is about learning how to control your frustrations and channel them is a positive, empowering, constructive way.